The Turkish ‘Kinsey Report’, Part 3 – First Time Sex

Turkish Sexuality Survey Question —
How would you describe your first sexual experience?

As Metin Üstündag was saying in Part 2…

Until recently, Turkish kids got their sex education in a very haphazard manner — with mostly bad results. My generation was luckier, in some ways — because of what happened in the mid-1970’s in Yesilcam (Turkey’s Hollywood-like film capital located in Istanbul).

The Turkish Erotic Films industry was born (and thrived) during that time and it provided my generation with a sex education, of sorts — though it fell well short of being authoritative. What could we expect? In the role of our sex educator was a porn star, Aydemir Akbas (now a legitimate actor at age 70, who has more than 95 films to his credit). And when he’d leer sexily at the women in those early films, they’d immediately begin to moan with exaggerated desire. In fact, those films probably did more to a develop our sense of humor about sex, than they did to educate us about its ‘finer points’.

Headlines from the sexuality survey…

  • 6 of 10 virgin couples felt ‘excitement’ at the thought of their first sexual congress as partners.
  • 23% of those surveyed felt ‘lust’ during their first sexual experience. The second most mentioned feeling was ‘nervousness’ — noted by 10.6% of participants.
  • Of those citing a feeling of ‘lust’ during their first sexual experience, most were aged 16-34
  • Men (6.2%) more than women (4.9%) described their first sexual experiences as ‘fatiguing’.
  • Slightly more women (9.9%) than men (8.8%) described their first sexual experience with ‘repugnance, guilt, or anger.’ And…
  • Of the more educated women in the survey, one-third of High School finishers and an equal percentage of University graduates were definite in describing their first sexual experiences as ‘unpleasant’, even ‘bad’. But…
  • Men and women equally (6.8%) said their first sexual experience made them “feel safe and secure.”
  • The 4 most-favored places for first-time sex were:

    1) One’s own home (Male – 43%, Female – 82% )

    2) Someone else’s home (M – 18%, F – 7% )

    3) A hotel (M – 9%, F – 3% )

    4) A brothel (M – 20%, F – 0% )

  • First-time sex-partners fell into three main categories:

    1) Husband/wife (Male – 25%, Female – 81% )

    2) Boyfriend/girlfriend (M – 27%, F – 13% )

    3) Prostitutes (M – 27%, F – 0% )

  • Among the celebrities polled, we were drawn to the ‘first time sex’ observations of the full-blooded veteran-actress Müjde Ar and the multi-talented Hülya Avsar…

    Film and TV Actress Müjde Ar

    It’s probably not fair to generalize about men. And, I don’t believe that every pubescent child rings at the door of a brothel — though life is faster and bolder in the big cities these days. As for the subject of the first sexual experience, in my opinion, a man’s greatest fear…is that his nervousness will show!

    All-round Entertainer Hülya Avsar

    I didn’t feel any nervousness, I felt excitement. That’s got much to do with the partner you’re with — and how the man makes you feel. I didn’t suffer a bit at the crucial moment. Afterwards, I had to hear it from him that I was no longer a virgin.

    In Part 4: More headlines from the Turkish ‘Kinsey Report’ — and answers to the Sexuality Survey Question, ‘How old were you when you had your first sexual relationship?

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    An Overview of a Good Sex Position During Pregnancy

    Lots of people believe that having sex whilst the woman is pregnant may harm the baby. This is a misconception and there is always a good sex position during pregnancy a couple can try.

    During a normal pregnancy with no complications sex is perfectly safe. It is advisable to speak your doctor if you experience vaginal bleeding or any abdominal pain before having sex. It is important to consider comfort for both partners when having sex during pregnancy. This covers both physical comfort and mental comfort. Discussing what feels comfortable and what both partners feel is acceptable is half way to achieving a healthy sex life during pregnancy.

    An obvious issue is the size of the womans stomach during the later months but the breasts may also need to be handled more gently too as they will be more tender especially in the early months.

    A good sex position during pregnancy to try is spooning; where both man and woman lie on their sides, with the man at the back, facing the womans back. This position is comfortable, keeps the weight off of the belly, and does not accommodate deep penetration, which can be uncomfortable later on in pregnancy.

    Other popular sex positions during pregnancy are the woman on top where the woman is in control of the depth and angle of penetration unlike in spooning. The rear-entry position is where the woman kneels down on all fours. The man enters from behind, kneeling behind the woman. The woman can use pillows to support her bump and chest, especially during later pregnancy.

    The missionary position is usually not comfortable for the woman. An alternative to try is for the woman to lie on the edge of the bed with the man kneeling in front of her.

    The key to success with trying out different sex positions during pregnancy is communication. Finding out what works and is comfortable for both partners is important and both the woman and man have to be honest about what they want and feel.

    In the case where the actual act of intercourse is not comfortable anymore, remember that there are other ways to be close and sexual with one another like giving a massage or oral sex.

    Sex Positions For Pregnant Women – Which Positions Should You Avoid?

    Many women are afraid to have sex during their pregnancy. This is understandable as there is a fear that the baby may be hurt during intercourse. Other women just feel uncomfortable with some sex positions and wish to know which sex positions are best while they’re pregnant.

    First, is having sex while pregnant safe? The answer is yes. As long as you have a normal pregnancy, you can have as much sex as you want. Some women have sex right until the very end of their pregnancy and find it as fun as ever. The only rule there is on whether or not to have sex during your pregnancy is whether or not you feel comfortable having sex. Some women do develop some bleeding or other phenomena when having sex while pregnant, and if you are one of those women than you should consult your doctor, but these women are a small minority.

    Best Sex Positions For Pregnant Women

    1. Spooning – spooning is a great sex position during pregnancy, especially the third trimester, because this position has you facing away from your partner, so your belly isn’t in the way.

    2. Half Missionary – This position has you lying with your feet on the edge of the bed, the floor, or supported by your partner. Your partner is standing over you, supported by his palms so he isn’t lying on top of you like in the missionary position.

    Positions You Should Avoid

    Basically, None! That’s the fun part. However, these positions may cause a bit of discomfort:

    1. Missionary – This position may be difficult to perform when your stomach shows. During the early part of your pregnancy it’s fine.

    2. You on top – When you become heavier, it may be difficult to support yourself over your partner, and your belly may interfere.

    3. Doggy style – You will have a hard time supporting yourself when you start to become heavy which will interfere with your concentration and pleasure.

    You may also feel discomfort with deep penetration, regardless of position.

    One Rule

    Always remember this rule: The moment it starts to not feel good, stop. Otherwise you should be alright. Have fun and good luck with your pregnancy